Saturday, 2 September 2017

Reflections on No Filter by Grace Victory + new September blog series !

It's September already ?! Madness. On the plus side  - AUTUMN IS COMING 🍃🍂🍃🍂 I'm not allowed candles in my flat next year, I don't think so currently trying to figure out how I'll be getting round that one.

I decided to do a little series on the blog this month about body positivity, self care and all that good stuff. As it's that time of the year when I start to get ready for uni , I pay a lot more attention to my mental health, how I'm talking to myself and so on. It just so happened that last month, I bought 3 books that address body image, self care and mental + physical health. So I thought once a week this month, I'll talk about one here (ofc there are 4 weeks so I've added one 1 read in 2016 and lovedd!) and share a few thoughts. Now, as this woman was on BBC Radio 4's Woman's Hour yesterday and killed the interview (guys she  mentioned bleached arseholes in porn on Radio 4 ugh love it so strong so pure), what better book to start with than No Filter by Grace Victory.

Grace has been pinned as "the internet's big sister". On her blog and YouTube channel, she talks about beauty, fashion, mental health, body image, sex, being a girl boss - everything. So how would I describe No Filter? It's essentially a memoir + advice/reference book written by the wiser big sister who's been there-done that-knows what she's talking about, that you wish you had. It's the kind of book I wish I read when I was like, 13. It's the kind of book that at 13, will let you know how the world is and give you a few pointers on how to navigate it. So I'm so glad it exists and is in the world for younger girls (school libraries better be stocking this you know) but even as someone in my 20's, I was still really touched by this book. Grace opens up SO much; everything from her childhood trauma, eating disorder and her career made for really raw and candid reading which I loved. At the end of each chapter are lessons to take away from her experiences, as well as resources if you need help in a particular area be it, domestic violence or bullying.

One thing I really didn't know much about, was Grace's career before YouTube, the blog, the documentaries - as a social worker for younger kids. Her love and passion for the emotional,physical wellbeing of these, puts her whole vibe into so much context ! This is someone who takes on her role as an influencer and title as "the internet's big sister" really seriously and genuinely cares about her audience. I'm a fan. Could you tell? Here are few other thoughts/lessons I had when reading this book:

- Don't hold on to painful memories and bury them.

- Grace says she didn't grow up with role models but I'm growing up with Grace as one and I'm so grateful.

- Kids are mean. I didn't need this book to know that I mean, I went to school too lol. But wow I'm so glad those years are overrr

- She went out with  Aaron Taylor Johnson guys !! 
Impromptu story time: I was reading this on my Kindle. So when she mentions that she was going out with this child actor and he'd had a few big staring roles, she named a film and said his name was Aaron ... I thought 😯 .... is this Aaron Taylor Johnson ?! Tweeted it because I tweet before I think. Then googled it to verify, twas true, tweeted again because in case you didn't know, here I was having done my detective work and sharing with you all. Put my phone down to continue reading, it was on the next page. Don't read with your phone folks. 

- Self harm manifests itself in multiple forms. Was very ignorant about this. 

- So do eating disorders.

- Daniel Radcliffe, what a top guy,

- Female friendships are so great and powerful and don't let anyone or the media make you think otherwise. I also love how that this book gives so many shout outs to strong women doing amazing things. 

- As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.

- The pressure to be perfect is really debilitating and I've wasted so much of my life being bothered by that it.

- Listen to your body and eat accordingly :) 

- Do NOT wallow in self pity. Okay sometimes you need like, a moment to do so, but then pick yourself up.

- Your body in't there to please anyone. Look after it and it'll look after you. It's there to help you move around and be free and happy. More about this in this video by Grace. 


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